Honey filed a custody case against me in September. You can read about it here.
It was finally heard last week. Why the long wait? Because Honey hired, in my opinion, one of the single worst attorneys that I have ever seen. It was…glorious.
Not that I’d ever tell Honey what I think of his lawyer. If he cannot discern between a competent lawyer and a clown, far be it from me to enlighten him. And while this unmitigated disaster of a man’s bungling ended up costing me an extra $1,500 (that I don’t have, beyond the thousands already paid that I didn’t have) to keep my lawyer at the ready, it was worth every dime.
After several completely avoidable paperwork delays caused by Honey’s lawyer, it was finally our turn to be heard…four hours later. I thought I would throw up, faint, and pee in my pants when they called our name, in that order. Here’s how it began:
My Lawyer: This motion to amend support is improper, your honor. There is an open child support case in the child support court, which has jurisdiction. It’s in every declaration we’ve filed from day one of this case. So we can only discuss custody today.
Honey’s Lawyer: (indignant) I was not aware of this!
My Lawyer (turning fully to address him, stunned) Yes, you were, sir. Not only have you claimed to have read our declarations in this matter, you appeared on your client’s behalf in child support court on that matter last year.
Honey’s Lawyer: I did no such thing!
My Lawyer: (incredulous) That is FALSE, Sir! On the such and such day of 2016, you appeared in that court. There were witnesses, including my client.
Honey’s Lawyer: I did no such – uh, hmmm. You know what? That’s correct. I did appear there, I recall that now. I’m sorry your honor.
This was a court room packed with very stressed out people about to have their child custody cases heard. For some of them, it may have been the worst day of their lives. And yet, in this somber place of misery, the entire crowd burst into laughter at the bumbling fool to my left. The judge didn’t even look up from her documents or quiet the crowd, annoyed at the time he’d already cost her court and the sheer idiocy of what had just unfolded. It was beautiful.
Oh, and the child support reduction issue? The ACTUAL reason he went for custody of the kids? Since his lawyer botched it and filed the motion in the wrong court, 5 months of waiting, delays, continuances, paperwork errors, declarations, and expensive lawyers, and he couldn’t even get that part heard.
In the end, no, Honey did not get custody. What he did get was a court order to complete a series of therapeutic re-unification visits here in our state over the next 2 years. Custody will not be revisited until and unless those terms are met.
From the beginning of this case, Honey was taken aback and offended by my suggestion that he would need to fly out here for recurring re-unification therapy before he would EVER be allowed to just get on a plane and fly off with them. To send them off with him before they’ve re-established their relationship would completely traumatize them, because the kids no longer know him as a trusted adult or legitimate parental figure. All they know is that he once used to be, but ‘left them to go live with his other kids’ (their words, sadly).
He was offended at the notion that his kids do not know him well enough to just hand him custody, because SKYPE. He said, and I quote, “Wow, I’m just floored that you would even ask for therapeutic visits. I mean, wow. I’m speechless. I don’t know what to say. I’m just really taken aback. Wow.”
Of course you are, Honey. That’s because you’re the king of your own imaginary kingdom, Big Guy.
They have no memory of living with him. They have no memory of visiting with him. He’s been in their presence for 4 days of the last 40 months. This man is totally delusional and knows nothing about kids and how they process things like this. They’re not terriers that he can just stick in a crate and chuck on a plane. They’re people – people he’s wounded and has done nothing to make amends with.
Think I’m being dramatic? Let’s see how well they know you as a parent when you’re cruising at 20,000 feet, Honey, with no mommy in sight for the first time since EVER, going somewhere with a person they last saw in person over 2 years ago, and the weight of that hits them. G’head. Let’s think on that real hard and consider who that’s going to be most traumatizing for – them, or every passenger on that plane. You will not traumatize these children again because of your indifference to their well being. You did that once already when you walked out of their lives. Never again.
Luckily, the judge was in agreement that simply reappearing after all this time to take them away with him on a plane would be completely unacceptable. At least a judge echoed what I said and perhaps Honey will grasp that this ‘outlandish’ requirement is not some personal attack or power trip. It’s about the kids, period.
So on to child support court we go. His recent defiance of court-ordered job contacts may not make the judge in that case very happy. Nor will the W2’s that show he worked last year, but didn’t once report that employment to the court or provide one dime of it to our kids.
He’s only a LITTLE behind, so maybe they’ll cut him some slack. He only owes $34,140 after all. But if, by chance, a judge didn’t think it was very nice of him to dodge paying for Little Man and Baby Girl’s food and rent while ensuring that his new family was fed and housed, he’s lucky that he’s already got the perfect tattoo for his new job making license plates in county.
Do you have a story about YOUR day in court? Post in the comments below!
So happy for you
So relieved for you. I check your blog regularly for an update.
Was he there via skype (or whatever)? did he testify? Curious how he justified his absence to the Judge.
Hopefully, this will be the last of custody nonsense.
So thrilled that the judge saw through him.
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Thank you Alice!! He was on speakerphone. He spoke for a minute, was interrupted by the judge, and his crappy lawyer pretty much took over and bungled the rest. Never seen anything like it. I googled him and there are numerous complaints about him. What? Honey didn’t do his homework? Shocker. Thank you for thinking of us! You’re awesome.
“Honey didn’t do his homework” Truer words have never been spoken. Even if he had called other attorneys, they likely would have told him he had no case. And therefore, he shopped around until he had one that wold take any case.
Given how much he owes you in CS, I am guessing asking for attorney’s fees would have been fruitless, but did your attorney ask?
Guessing Honey hasn’t reached out to schedule the first visit yet…..
My attorney asked for fees, but the judge said that unless Honey had the clear ability to pay it, she would not order it. Of course, Honey can’t pay, so it wasn’t awarded. What a ridiculous rule! But on the plus side, he didn’t get the atty fees HE asked for from me. Thanks for your concern, you’re awesome! And you’re right…this other guy (according to my lawyer) is well known in the legal community for using delay tactics to stretch out a client’s retainer, making choices in court that are completely illogical/impractical/random/pointless…my lawyer was a serious guy, but whenever the other guy would pull something, he would laugh and shake his head and tell me not to look for the logic in his choices. It made me feel so much better to go forward knowing that the guy would likely botch something, and botch it he did. I prayed for that specifically – confusion/problems on the other side. I was NOT disappointed. Crikey.
Honey is seriously an ass, and I am glad he found himself the crappiest lawyer of the town.
I am glad he did not get the custody. He does not deserve to.
(I have no wicked court stories to share.)
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He also looked like a used car salesman. 🙂 Thank you for your kind words!! So relieved.
I can understand the relief.
Used car salesman? Ha Ha Ha…frazzzled and depleted!
Ha ha! Yep. Frazzled, depleted, slimy, and underhanded. You know what’s crazy? He’s the father of someone extremely famous in show business. There’s a very interesting back story there, one I can’t get into lest I reveal his name…
You mean the lawyer? I think Honey’s kid with the OW would be very young.
Whatever, the lawyer and Honey…both are asses in their own right.